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22 Things a Woman Must ­Know If She Loves a Man ­with Asperger's Syndrome
By Rudy Simone, Maxine C. Aston (Foreword by)

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Paperback, 112 pages
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United Kingdom, 15 May 2009

Clear and honest advice on how to maintain a successful relationship when one partner has AS.


Rudy Simone is a writer and Asperger's Syndrome educator who lives in Western New York.


Introduction. 1. There will be loneliness. 2. There will probably be no public displays of affection. 3. Labels and romantic expectations make him feel nervous. 4. He will take you and the relationship for granted. 5. He may have a more patient approach to sex than you do. 6. Communication will always be a challenge. 7. There will be shock. 8. Your man may not be there for you in a crisis. 9. Many AS males can be cranky, have bad tempers and can explode at the slightest of things. 10. Your man may have a hard time completing a college degree, holding on to a job or seeing things through. 11. He may get depressed and/or completely inert for long periods of time. 12. There will be times he embarrasses you. 13. Your family and friends may think you're being a doormat and a fool. 14. People will tell you he's just being a man. 15. You must have a good social support network, so you can go out and have fun once in a while. 16. Your AS male will not care about the things you do without him and there will be things he does not share with you. 17. Time holds a different meaning for him than it does for you. 18. He will probably want to sleep on the couch starting very early in the relationship and continuing throughout. 19. You will never change him, even if you can succeed in getting him to change his behaviour. 20. Even if he loves you and values your relationship, it is possible you may never get a commitment. 21. Many AS/NT relationships go through various metamorphoses. 22. Your relationship will stand a much better chance if your man will REACH. Questions to ask yourself. Glossary of Terms. Recommended reading and resources. References.

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Clear and honest advice on how to maintain a successful relationship when one partner has AS.


Rudy Simone is a writer and Asperger's Syndrome educator who lives in Western New York.


Introduction. 1. There will be loneliness. 2. There will probably be no public displays of affection. 3. Labels and romantic expectations make him feel nervous. 4. He will take you and the relationship for granted. 5. He may have a more patient approach to sex than you do. 6. Communication will always be a challenge. 7. There will be shock. 8. Your man may not be there for you in a crisis. 9. Many AS males can be cranky, have bad tempers and can explode at the slightest of things. 10. Your man may have a hard time completing a college degree, holding on to a job or seeing things through. 11. He may get depressed and/or completely inert for long periods of time. 12. There will be times he embarrasses you. 13. Your family and friends may think you're being a doormat and a fool. 14. People will tell you he's just being a man. 15. You must have a good social support network, so you can go out and have fun once in a while. 16. Your AS male will not care about the things you do without him and there will be things he does not share with you. 17. Time holds a different meaning for him than it does for you. 18. He will probably want to sleep on the couch starting very early in the relationship and continuing throughout. 19. You will never change him, even if you can succeed in getting him to change his behaviour. 20. Even if he loves you and values your relationship, it is possible you may never get a commitment. 21. Many AS/NT relationships go through various metamorphoses. 22. Your relationship will stand a much better chance if your man will REACH. Questions to ask yourself. Glossary of Terms. Recommended reading and resources. References.

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9781849058032
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Illustrated by Emma Rios
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21.1 x 13.7 x 0.8 centimeters (0.10 kg)

Table of Contents

Introduction. 1. There will be loneliness. 2. There will probably be no public displays of affection. 3. Labels and romantic expectations make him feel nervous. 4. He will take you and the relationship for granted. 5. He may have a more patient approach to sex than you do. 6. Communication will always be a challenge. 7. There will be shock. 8. Your man may not be there for you in a crisis. 9. Many AS males can be cranky, have bad tempers and can explode at the slightest of things. 10. Your man may have a hard time completing a college degree, holding on to a job or seeing things through. 11. He may get depressed and/or completely inert for long periods of time. 12. There will be times he embarrasses you. 13. Your family and friends may think you're being a doormat and a fool. 14. People will tell you he's just being a man. 15. You must have a good social support network, so you can go out and have fun once in a while. 16. Your AS male will not care about the things you do without him and there will be things he does not share with you. 17. Time holds a different meaning for him than it does for you. 18. He will probably want to sleep on the couch starting very early in the relationship and continuing throughout. 19. You will never change him, even if you can succeed in getting him to change his behaviour. 20. Even if he loves you and values your relationship, it is possible you may never get a commitment. 21. Many AS/NT relationships go through various metamorphoses. 22. Your relationship will stand a much better chance if your man will REACH. Questions to ask yourself. Glossary of Terms. Recommended reading and resources. References.

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A look at how to overcome common difficulties and maintain a loving relationship with an AS partner

About the Author

Rudy Simone is a writer and Asperger's Syndrome educator who lives in Western New York.

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"There are many books that have been written about being in a relationship with a man with AS, but I have found none to be as insightful, accurate and understanding of both perspectives as this book by Rudy Simone. Each section of the book says it just the way it is; it is realistic, positive and unbiased." - From the Foreword by Maxine Aston, author of The Other Half of Asperger Syndrome, Aspergers in Love and The Asperger Couples Workbook.

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By John on October 19, 2009
Not only is this book an excellent summary of what it is like to be married to an Aspie, but it also describes for the afflicted person (if that's the right word) what it's like for him or her (mostly hims). Other texts do so too, like Tony Attwood's Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome. But the essential information is obscured by the accompanying technical psychological information. In addition the author spells out clearly what strategies can be used to cope with the situations described in clear and concise terms. And she ends each chapter on a positive note. It must be said, however, that the (mostly female) partners of Aspies, might find this book rather depressing since it spells out all the negative aspects of the relationship which they have known forever, but not understood before. And it makes it clear that continuing to live with the guy is not going to be easy. I think it was Fritz Perls of Gestalt Therapy fame who originally said the "awareness give you choices". Understanding how an Adult-Asperger's-Syndrome person functions in a relationship is a very enlightening experience for both partners. It tends to remove a lot of the underlying anger in the couple's interactions when it is realized that the Aspie is not vindictive or malicious, but just has a brain which is wired differently from "typical" (read "normal") people. This leads to "different" emotional reactions and behaviours. The layout and illustrations are also excellent, and make for ease of reading and reference. Citing references within the text immediately following the statements concerned is so much better than footnotes or superscript numbers referring to bibliography listings. For anyone involved in the life of an Adult-Asperger's-Syndrome person, this booklet is essential reading.
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By Susan on March 3, 2011
Hmmm, quite useful - a quick and simple set of suggestions. I was surprised at the brevity- had expected a bit more content but I would still recommend it.
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